When you look at your parenting style, are you one to find the negatives about your child and comment on those more than you do the positives? Do you use harsh words and issues orders instead of giving choices? If this is true for you, do you also feel stressed as a parent? Parenthood is not an easy thing to do these days.
Jo Frost works well as a Supernanny because she speaks calmly and clearly and you always know she’s in charge. The kids know it as well. To be successful as a parent today, you have to know what motivates children the most.
Do your kids like to play computer or electronic games? Can they do it for hours? Want to know why?
- These games have structure and limits
- They give instant feedback
- You can move forward in the games when you make the right choices
- They offer excitement!
As a parent, how many of these variables do you offer your children? Think about it. When your child makes a bad choice are you all “amped” up about it; hot under the collar? And then, when your child does something right, like get dressed in time for school, or brush the hair, etc, do you also get “amped” up about it? Of course you don’t. And that’s why your kids don’t do what you want them to do. Or better yet, they play their subtle passive aggressive games around you that you may not even be aware of so they feel like they’re in control and not you.
You can find out more about these games by sending me an email to MaryLynne@ParentSurvival911.com and ask for the chart, Games I Play
You can also check out my web site and get a free “Parents’ Awareness Guide to Dealing with Angry Children”
Until my next entry, I wish you successful parenting.