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The cost of being a parent and raising a child in todays world is constantly increasing.
Three Great Things a Parent Can Do for Children Involved in Divorce
I want to share another one of Ruben Francia's missives for you regarding children and divorce. His blog is worth visiting. His ideas are clear and easy to follow for any parent wanting to make it easier on his or her children while going through the separation process and/or dealing with after the divorce has become final.
You can find his article at:
http://becomingdivorced.blogspot.com/2005/07/what-3-greatest-gift-you-can-give-to.html
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How Divorced Parents Can Promote Positive Child Adjustment
I know parents who are going through divorce or have gone through the process, want to make it was easy as possbile fopr their children. I find successful parents are able to step out of their own "issues" with their ex partner and remember to focus on the needs of the children.
I found a blog on parenting and divorce today I would like to share with you. The latest article is titled:
What 10 Things Divorced Parent Should Do To Promote Positive Child Adjustment? by Ruben Francia
You can visit it at http://becomingdivorced.blogspot.com
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Develop a Successful Parenting Plan for Children After Divorce
Last Spring, the Today Show presented a segment on The Co-Parenting Survival Guide. This book advises parents on how to let go of conflict and do what's best for the kids. It was written by psychologists Elizabeth Thayer and Jeffrey Zimmerman. You can read an excerpt from the book by going to
http://msnbc.msn.com/id/7475814/
Going through a divorce is especially difficult when there are children. Successful parents are able to keep their negative feelings to themselves around the children so the children don't get caught up in the cross fire between their parents.
Children have enough feelings of insecurity when a family disrupts. They need to know their parents still love them. When they sense a parent is angry, they may think its at them even though it isn't.
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A Book on Children and Divorce
I found an interesting book on the Internet called, What Children Need to Know about Divorce. here's a description of it for you.
From trusted author and licensed family counselor William L. Coleman, comes practical help for children ages 6 to 12. Because it is often hard for children to express feelings, fears, and questions, it is easy to assume that they are adjusting and coping with their parents' divorce - when instead they may feel guilty that they are somehow to blame for the break-up. William L. Coleman provides an honest, understandable and simple way for concerned adults to broach discussion of this sensitive subject with the children they care about, covering such crucial areas as: The uniqueness and importance of each child; Reassurance of the continued love of both parents for the child; Encouragement to talk openly of painful subjects; and Ways to show love to both ... more »
How Adult Children Experience Their Parent's Divorce
I was surfing the web this morning with my first cup of coffee and found this blog, authored by Jen Abbass: http://generationexfiles.blogspot.com/
She wrote a book about adult children experiencing their parents’ divorce. She talked about an article she wrote about what step kids want yu to know. I liked it and wanted to pass it on for others to read and consider.
The article offers five "lessons the Brady Bunch didn't teach us:
1. We need time to adjust.
2. We need to know it's OK to grieve our loss.
3. We feel torn. Don's ask us to pick sides.
4. We need to feel like we have a say.
5. We need to know we're loved.
Good advice for all of us.
Parents: Helping Your Child Cope with Divorce
Children, just like their parents, cope with divorce and separation of their parents in different ways. There are some great web sites out there available to you if you’re interested in being a more successful parent in helping your child cope with divorce.
One of these sites is offered by www.Divorceinfo.com Click on your control button and this link for tips on Basic Pointers: Basic Pointers
This information will help you strengthen your parenting style in dealing with passive aggressive behavior and discipline. Another link you might want to check out is called “Children of Divorce Speak Out”
http://www.divorcewizards.com/childrenofdivorce.html
Until my next entry, I wish you successful parenting.
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How to Improve Your Parenting Style: What motivates children to change?
When you look at your parenting style, are you one to find the negatives about your child and comment on those more than you do the positives? Do you use harsh words and issues orders instead of giving choices? If this is true for you, do you also feel stressed as a parent? Parenthood is not an easy thing to do these days.
Jo Frost works well as a Supernanny because she speaks calmly and clearly and you always know she’s in charge. The kids know it as well. To be successful as a parent today, you have to know what motivates children the most.
Do your kids like to play computer or electronic games? Can they do it for hours? Want to know why?
- These games have structure and limits
- They give instant feedback
- You can move forward in the ... more »
Successful Parenting When There's Been a Divorce
Sometimes children’s behaviors can get a bit “testy”
around their parents when they’ve gone through emotional changes involved with parents splitting up and getting divorced. When parents are feeling their own levels of anger, frustration and disappointments, they may not be aware of how that affects their children. Successful parenting happens as a result of your listening to your children and having them involved in the problem solving issues with you—instead of you telling them what they need to do.
Kids today don’t react well when we order them and tell them what to do with an authoritarian voice. They will respond much better when given choices. Let’s say you want your child to pick up his room. You’re tired of the constant nagging which leads to both of you getting upset. That is NOT a win-win situation.
So here’s the deal.... more »