One of the ways to increase positive communications with your children is to sneak a little note or happy face into their lunch boxes, back packs or in their beds.  The notes should be positive, sharing your feelings about something good they said or did recently.

If your children are older, you can use a spiral notebook as a communication journal to share feelings with one another; not chores or what has to be done.  This is for positive communication and feedback.  Whenever you acknowledge something the child said or did, it lets the child know you're aware.  Instead of saying, "good job", write or say something about what you obsevred them doing; an action they took.

Some examples might be:

"I noticed you put all your clothes in the dirty hamper by yourself".

"I liked the way you came to dinner quickly when I called you."

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