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Saturday, October 1
Ten Tips for Dealing with Temper Tantrums #1
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sat 01 Oct 2005 04:54 PM PDT
Destry Maycock wrote an article about ten things you do when your child has a temper tantrum. I'm sharing the first fiove with you toeday and the second five tomorrow.
Whenever David doesn’t get his way he throws himself on the floor, screams, kicks and cries incessantly. What can we do to help him overcome this behavior?
TIP: What is David getting out of this behavior. First make sure that you are not rewarding this type of behavior, positively or negatively because both will help keep it alive. If you eventually give in to this behavior by changing your initial decision (not letting David go out to play, refusing David a cookie), David has learned that tantrums work. Hence, when David wants his way he may think, “ a good tantrum just may get me that candy bar, it got me out of bedtime last night.” Negative attention (yelling, threatening, ... more »
Friday, September 30
Getting What You Want in Parenting
by
ParentSurvival911
on Fri 30 Sep 2005 04:50 PM PDT
Kim Olver wrote an article, "Getting What You Want in Parenting." Enjoy the read. more »
Wednesday, September 21
Brain Gym Exercise to Improve Attention and Focus
by
ParentSurvival911
on Wed 21 Sep 2005 04:19 PM PDT
Another brain gym exercise from Paul and Gail Dennison's book, Brain Gym, is called "Thinking Caps." It's good to do to help your child (and you) improve attention and listenting. Gently unroll your ears, three times from top to bottom. Start at the fold of the ear at the top and gently use your fingers to unroill the fold on both ears at the same time. more »
Sunday, September 18
Successful Parenting Tip: Helping Your Child Take Tests #2
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sun 18 Sep 2005 06:19 PM PDT
Another brain gym exercise from Paul and Gail Dennison's book, Brain Gym is called belly breathing. I use it whenever I'm feeling tense or nervous. Standing up, I rest my hand on my abdomen and thenblow out all the old air in short, soft little puffs (like blowing a cotton ball). Then, I breathe in slowly, with a dep breath, filling up my abdomen like a balloon. I do this for about 4-5 times and always feel more relaxed and calmer. more »
Tuesday, September 13
Praising Your Child, Part 3
by
ParentSurvival911
on Tue 13 Sep 2005 10:34 PM PDT
Today's entry consists of Dr. Alvy's third article in a four part series on praising your children effectively. he has some excellent ideas for helping parents interact more successfully with their children. If you'd like to become a more successful parent, check it out.
MaryLynne White
Can a Game Really Compel Any Child to Behave?
"How to Become a Super Nanny in Your Own Home!
Free Consumer Awareness Guide Shows You How..."http://www.ParentSurvival911.com more »
Saturday, September 10
Successful Parenting Tip: Effective Praise, part 2
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sat 10 Sep 2005 10:42 AM PDT
I shared with you last month the first article in a series by dr. Alvy on how to give praise effectively to your child. His second articlediscusses three things you can do to be come more successful at parenting when praising your child. It's worth the time to read it.
MaryLynne White
Creator of the Parent Survival Game,
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Thursday, September 8
Successful Parenting Tip: Anger management for families
by
ParentSurvival911
on Thu 08 Sep 2005 06:11 PM PDT
Ron Huxley wrote a two part series on anger management for families. I'm sharing his second article with you today. He talks about the four steps to manage both your anger and that of your child. remember, that when you andyour child are angry, you are not in the thinking part of your brain. Nope. You're in the lizard, limbic part of the brain that is unable to think; it merely reacts.
You need to take some time out to calm down before talking or trying to work out problems. Everyone involved needs to be in the thinking part of their brains. if not, you can't create a win-win situation for all involved. I think you'll likehis ideas on anger management. Enjoy more »
Monday, September 5
Successful Parenting Tip: How to find parenting resources on the web
by
ParentSurvival911
on Mon 05 Sep 2005 03:27 PM PDT
Every parent wants to feel successful and confident when it comes to raising children. What a great thing we have so many resources available to us today over the Internet. Doing a search on Google helps because they keep their indexes up to date. A search for successful parenting or acting like a super nanny should produce a result that is timely. When you perform a search you will see the indexing date in the results. That's why I enter daily tips for parents.
You can also go to www.feedster.com and www.rss.com for feeds that have parenting articles on them as well. Successful parenting and acting like a super nany don't happen overnight. Giv yur self some time to change old habits of parenting. try one small change each week. Stick with it for a few days until it begins to feel more comfortable. Then move onto another new technique. You will ... more »
Sunday, August 28
Successful Parenting Tips: 20 Ways to Bring Out the Best in Your Children
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sun 28 Aug 2005 07:50 PM PDT
Successful parenting doesn't always come naturally. The purpose of this blog is to provide successful parenting tips and resources to parents to help them see ghow to bring out the successful parenting part that's alway within them. This article was posted on another blog and I just had to share it with you.
Rabbi Zelig Pliskin has these wise words to share. I read them, they make sense, and they are a wonderful road map to follow when parenting. I'm on that road, and am still trying to be the best navigator I can be.
Here is the road map to keep in your glove box:1) Love your children unconditionally -- irrespective of whether they "behave nicely," clean up their room, and do their homework. Your love must go beyond this. Your children will feel it. Go the the blog and read the rest for some great ideas on ... more »
Saturday, August 27
Successful Parenting Tips: being a Positive Role Model for Your Children
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sat 27 Aug 2005 10:42 PM PDT
William Lopez wrote an article for the AllPsych Journal in May, 2004 titled, “Successful Parenting Skills that Shape Children’s Behaviors.” It’s a lengthy article with information supported by research. I wanted to share a part of that article with you regarding successful parenting behaviors. It has to do with being the role model to your child.
“Do what I say and not what I do,” is a common phrase that is often repeated; however it only confuses children. Children will not do what the parent says, since they will do what the parents have modeled. Children model the behaviors that the parent has presented to them time and time again. Looking at the messages one sends to his or her child is easily seen by analyzing one’s own behaviors. The parents’ main goal is to always set a positive example that the children can model ... more »
Thursday, August 25
Successful Parenting Tip: What Motivates Children?
by
ParentSurvival911
on Thu 25 Aug 2005 07:37 PM PDT
There are three re-occurring issues with parents and children:
1. Parents become frustrated when their children don't do as they
are told and usually end upbecoming angry and raising their
voice.
2. Parents tend to use the same parenting techniques over and
over again, even when it's clear what they're doing is not
working in getting a child's behavior to change.
3. Children respond best to activities that get their attention.
They love computerized games, GameBoys, etc. Why?
a. They have structure and limits
b. They give instant feedback
c. You can move forward in these games when you
make the right choices
d. They offer excitement!
Children may not get these elements from their parents. When they're behaving, all is well; parents don't usually give them a lot of attention. Children ... more »
Wednesday, August 24
Successful Parenting Tip: Focusing on the Positives
by
ParentSurvival911
on Wed 24 Aug 2005 10:26 AM PDT
One of the characteristics of successful parents is their ability to look at the positive things their children do. They understand the importance of giving their children positive feedback as much as possible. If children are hearing mostly negative comments from their parents instead of positive ones, they don’t feel encouraged to do their best; “why bother”, might be their attitude.
Successful parenting involves the use of excitement and ‘pizzaz’ when you catch your child doing something right. If you have a child that argues often, and you’ve had some conversations without arguing, mention it to your child. “I noticed you and I have gone for an hour with out arguing. That’s fantastic! Keep up the good work!”
Children love computer games and game boys because they get immediate feedback. The more positive things you can acknowledge in your child, the more ... more »
Tuesday, August 23
Successful Parenting Tip: dealing with irritating behaviors
by
ParentSurvival911
on Tue 23 Aug 2005 11:49 PM PDT
Have you ever had a child who likes to pick his nose and then put his "prize" on the wall? If so, suggest making a booger sculpture. Give him a paper plate and ask him to see what kind of art sculpture he can make for you with his boogers. Sound strange? Wouldn't you rather have them all in one place, where your child is engaging in creative brain activity instead of all over the wall you just cleaned? Remmeber; successful parenting involves staying calm and catching them off guard. They usually do things like this to upset us. When we do just that, they'll do it again because it worked.
If your child doesn’t answer you when you speak, celebrate the quiet and make a big deal of it; have fun; adlib it up!
For children who are disrespectful, have them give you five minutes of foot ... more »
Monday, August 22
Successful Parenting Tip: How to stop the arguing when you ask your child to do something
by
ParentSurvival911
on Mon 22 Aug 2005 07:33 PM PDT
How would your parenting style look if you were acting like a super nanny?
Successful parenting techniques usually involve the parents staying calm,
regardless of what their “sweetums” are doing. They don’t get caught up
in the secret game we discussed a few blogs ago. Nope. They have this
amazing ability to walk away from their children when things are heating up.
Remember, successful parents do not get into a conversation with their
children after they’ve asked them to do something or stop an activity.
What does this look like? Let’s ay you’ve asked your son to do something
and he starts arguing. You can simply say, “What did you hear me say?”
If he continues to argue, restate, “What did you hear me say?” Keep doing
this until he tells you what you said. Then praise the heck ... more »
Sunday, August 21
Successful Parenting Tip: dealing with a Constant Chatterbox
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sun 21 Aug 2005 06:06 PM PDT
Brita St. Clair wrote a great book called, 99 Ways to Drive Your Child Sane. In it she gives this response for a parent who has a child that talks all the time: It's called The Fly.
While your child is talking, start watching the path of an imaginary fly going around the room. Watch it land somewhere, sneak up on it and swat it. If you can pull it off, sneak up, pretend to catch it and pop it into your mouth. Move your tongue around the inside of your cheek like the fly is trying to get out. Open your mouth, let it loose and start over again and/or turn to your child and sya, "I'm sorry, were you saying somehting?" Watch your child's reaction.
Successful parenting uses the element of surprise to catch your child off guard. have fun!
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Sucessful Parenting Tips on helping toddlers build movement skills
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sun 21 Aug 2005 02:58 PM PDT
If you have young children at home, this article provides helpful tips on developing movement skills in toddlers. more »
Saturday, August 20
Successful Parenting Involves Parents Being able to Discipline Theimselves
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sat 20 Aug 2005 09:11 PM PDT
I found a great article by Gary Peterson on discipline. I agree with him that successful parents are able to disipline themelves with being consistent with their children.
http://www.countrykeepers.com/wp/?p=1911 more »
Friday, August 19
Guerilla Parenting Techniques: Helpful or Abusive?
by
ParentSurvival911
on Fri 19 Aug 2005 07:39 PM PDT
When you hear the phrase, “guerrilla parenting techniques”, what images come to mind? I see a big, broad shouldered soldier, dressed in green fatigues, with brown paint on his face. His chest is crisscrossed with ammunition for the guns strapped on his legs. He’s quietly hidden under the cover of trees, waiting to snipe away at the enemy with maximum impact.
“Guerilla” was a term borrowed from Spanish used to describe small combat groups. Guerilla warfare operates with small, mobile and flexible combat groups without a front line. I thought using the term guerilla would be very appropriate when speaking of new parenting techniques for parents.
I’m going to discuss:
- What do I mean by guerilla parenting techniques
- What they are not
- Give some examples
- Explain why guerilla parenting techniques are helpful t parents and children
What do I ... more »
Thursday, August 18
Successful Parenting Tips: Improving Communication # 2
by
ParentSurvival911
on Thu 18 Aug 2005 10:10 PM PDT
Here are some more suggestions for successful parenting techniques in communicating with your children:
- Remember, parents act as role models to their children; the way you communicate is the way your children learn to communicate. If you don’t like the way your children express themselves, who did they learn it from?
- Instead of giving a child orders, give the child choices. “Do you want to clean your room before dinner or after dinner?” The more choices you give, the more the child feels in control and will usually be more willing to do what is asked.
- Whenever you catch your child doing something right, give some positive feedback. Instead of saying, “what a great job,” say, “I like how you cleaned the counter; it looks so much better.”
- See if you can give your child twice the number of positive statements as you do negative ... more »
Successful Parenting Tips: dealing with ADHD/ADD Kids
by
ParentSurvival911
on Thu 18 Aug 2005 07:21 AM PDT
I like the information given by Dr. Al for families dealing with a child having Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder or Attention Deficit Disorder. Check it out. more »
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