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Sunday, August 28
Successful Parenting Tips: 20 Ways to Bring Out the Best in Your Children
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sun 28 Aug 2005 07:50 PM PDT
Successful parenting doesn't always come naturally. The purpose of this blog is to provide successful parenting tips and resources to parents to help them see ghow to bring out the successful parenting part that's alway within them. This article was posted on another blog and I just had to share it with you.
Rabbi Zelig Pliskin has these wise words to share. I read them, they make sense, and they are a wonderful road map to follow when parenting. I'm on that road, and am still trying to be the best navigator I can be.
Here is the road map to keep in your glove box:1) Love your children unconditionally -- irrespective of whether they "behave nicely," clean up their room, and do their homework. Your love must go beyond this. Your children will feel it. Go the the blog and read the rest for some great ideas on ... more »
Saturday, August 27
Successful Parenting Tips: being a Positive Role Model for Your Children
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sat 27 Aug 2005 10:42 PM PDT
William Lopez wrote an article for the AllPsych Journal in May, 2004 titled, “Successful Parenting Skills that Shape Children’s Behaviors.” It’s a lengthy article with information supported by research. I wanted to share a part of that article with you regarding successful parenting behaviors. It has to do with being the role model to your child.
“Do what I say and not what I do,” is a common phrase that is often repeated; however it only confuses children. Children will not do what the parent says, since they will do what the parents have modeled. Children model the behaviors that the parent has presented to them time and time again. Looking at the messages one sends to his or her child is easily seen by analyzing one’s own behaviors. The parents’ main goal is to always set a positive example that the children can model ... more »
Thursday, August 25
Successful Parenting Tip: What Motivates Children?
by
ParentSurvival911
on Thu 25 Aug 2005 07:37 PM PDT
There are three re-occurring issues with parents and children:
1. Parents become frustrated when their children don't do as they
are told and usually end upbecoming angry and raising their
voice.
2. Parents tend to use the same parenting techniques over and
over again, even when it's clear what they're doing is not
working in getting a child's behavior to change.
3. Children respond best to activities that get their attention.
They love computerized games, GameBoys, etc. Why?
a. They have structure and limits
b. They give instant feedback
c. You can move forward in these games when you
make the right choices
d. They offer excitement!
Children may not get these elements from their parents. When they're behaving, all is well; parents don't usually give them a lot of attention. Children ... more »
Wednesday, August 24
Successful Parenting Tip: Focusing on the Positives
by
ParentSurvival911
on Wed 24 Aug 2005 10:26 AM PDT
One of the characteristics of successful parents is their ability to look at the positive things their children do. They understand the importance of giving their children positive feedback as much as possible. If children are hearing mostly negative comments from their parents instead of positive ones, they don’t feel encouraged to do their best; “why bother”, might be their attitude.
Successful parenting involves the use of excitement and ‘pizzaz’ when you catch your child doing something right. If you have a child that argues often, and you’ve had some conversations without arguing, mention it to your child. “I noticed you and I have gone for an hour with out arguing. That’s fantastic! Keep up the good work!”
Children love computer games and game boys because they get immediate feedback. The more positive things you can acknowledge in your child, the more ... more »
Tuesday, August 23
Successful Parenting Tip: dealing with irritating behaviors
by
ParentSurvival911
on Tue 23 Aug 2005 11:49 PM PDT
Have you ever had a child who likes to pick his nose and then put his "prize" on the wall? If so, suggest making a booger sculpture. Give him a paper plate and ask him to see what kind of art sculpture he can make for you with his boogers. Sound strange? Wouldn't you rather have them all in one place, where your child is engaging in creative brain activity instead of all over the wall you just cleaned? Remmeber; successful parenting involves staying calm and catching them off guard. They usually do things like this to upset us. When we do just that, they'll do it again because it worked.
If your child doesn’t answer you when you speak, celebrate the quiet and make a big deal of it; have fun; adlib it up!
For children who are disrespectful, have them give you five minutes of foot ... more »
Monday, August 22
Successful Parenting Tip: How to stop the arguing when you ask your child to do something
by
ParentSurvival911
on Mon 22 Aug 2005 07:33 PM PDT
How would your parenting style look if you were acting like a super nanny?
Successful parenting techniques usually involve the parents staying calm,
regardless of what their “sweetums” are doing. They don’t get caught up
in the secret game we discussed a few blogs ago. Nope. They have this
amazing ability to walk away from their children when things are heating up.
Remember, successful parents do not get into a conversation with their
children after they’ve asked them to do something or stop an activity.
What does this look like? Let’s ay you’ve asked your son to do something
and he starts arguing. You can simply say, “What did you hear me say?”
If he continues to argue, restate, “What did you hear me say?” Keep doing
this until he tells you what you said. Then praise the heck ... more »
Sunday, August 21
Successful Parenting Tip: dealing with a Constant Chatterbox
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sun 21 Aug 2005 06:06 PM PDT
Brita St. Clair wrote a great book called, 99 Ways to Drive Your Child Sane. In it she gives this response for a parent who has a child that talks all the time: It's called The Fly.
While your child is talking, start watching the path of an imaginary fly going around the room. Watch it land somewhere, sneak up on it and swat it. If you can pull it off, sneak up, pretend to catch it and pop it into your mouth. Move your tongue around the inside of your cheek like the fly is trying to get out. Open your mouth, let it loose and start over again and/or turn to your child and sya, "I'm sorry, were you saying somehting?" Watch your child's reaction.
Successful parenting uses the element of surprise to catch your child off guard. have fun!
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Sucessful Parenting Tips on helping toddlers build movement skills
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sun 21 Aug 2005 02:58 PM PDT
If you have young children at home, this article provides helpful tips on developing movement skills in toddlers. more »
Saturday, August 20
Successful Parenting Involves Parents Being able to Discipline Theimselves
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sat 20 Aug 2005 09:11 PM PDT
I found a great article by Gary Peterson on discipline. I agree with him that successful parents are able to disipline themelves with being consistent with their children.
http://www.countrykeepers.com/wp/?p=1911 more »
Friday, August 19
Guerilla Parenting Techniques: Helpful or Abusive?
by
ParentSurvival911
on Fri 19 Aug 2005 07:39 PM PDT
When you hear the phrase, “guerrilla parenting techniques”, what images come to mind? I see a big, broad shouldered soldier, dressed in green fatigues, with brown paint on his face. His chest is crisscrossed with ammunition for the guns strapped on his legs. He’s quietly hidden under the cover of trees, waiting to snipe away at the enemy with maximum impact.
“Guerilla” was a term borrowed from Spanish used to describe small combat groups. Guerilla warfare operates with small, mobile and flexible combat groups without a front line. I thought using the term guerilla would be very appropriate when speaking of new parenting techniques for parents.
I’m going to discuss:
- What do I mean by guerilla parenting techniques
- What they are not
- Give some examples
- Explain why guerilla parenting techniques are helpful t parents and children
What do I ... more »
Thursday, August 18
Successful Parenting Tips: Improving Communication # 2
by
ParentSurvival911
on Thu 18 Aug 2005 10:10 PM PDT
Here are some more suggestions for successful parenting techniques in communicating with your children:
- Remember, parents act as role models to their children; the way you communicate is the way your children learn to communicate. If you don’t like the way your children express themselves, who did they learn it from?
- Instead of giving a child orders, give the child choices. “Do you want to clean your room before dinner or after dinner?” The more choices you give, the more the child feels in control and will usually be more willing to do what is asked.
- Whenever you catch your child doing something right, give some positive feedback. Instead of saying, “what a great job,” say, “I like how you cleaned the counter; it looks so much better.”
- See if you can give your child twice the number of positive statements as you do negative ... more »
Successful Parenting Tips: dealing with ADHD/ADD Kids
by
ParentSurvival911
on Thu 18 Aug 2005 07:21 AM PDT
I like the information given by Dr. Al for families dealing with a child having Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder or Attention Deficit Disorder. Check it out. more »
Wednesday, August 17
Successful Parenting Tips: How to Improve Communication with Your Child #1
by
ParentSurvival911
on Wed 17 Aug 2005 06:50 PM PDT
There is no classic right or wrong way to parent, but research into parenting has shown that the most successful parenting strategies involve the following behavior by the caretaker: communication, appropriate discipline, intellectual development, teaching and modeling values, self-esteem development, and encouraging age appropriate socialization. Parents who are the most successful in accomplishing these strategies are parents who use flexibility and teamwork.
I’d like to share some thoughts with you regarding ways to communicate with your children so you feel more successful as a parent.
· If your child wants to talk with you, make sure you are looking at him or her directly in the eye. This lets the child know you are listening.
· Turn off the television and/or put down your reading if your child approaches you to talk. It shows you care, and it probably won’t take that much time out ... more »
Tuesday, August 16
Successful Parenting Tips: What Not to Do with Your Children
by
ParentSurvival911
on Tue 16 Aug 2005 10:15 PM PDT
Richard Patterson wrote a book about confident parenting. In it, he discusses four things successful parents do NOT do. I wanted to share them with you today because are informative and helpful.
Successful parenting will always be a challenge, even to the most hard working parent. But you can meet the challenge. Here are some pointers to help along the way.
1) SUCCESSFUL PARENTS DON'T EXPECT PERFECTION, either from themselves or their children. Parenting is an art, not a science. Parent's DO; their children BECOME. Between the "doing" and "becoming" there is room for a lot of mistakes. Successful parents understand that, like themselves, their children aren't perfect, either. These parents expect the best from their children, but not perfection. This frees them to love their children unreservedly.
2) SUCCESSFUL PARENTS DON'T FEAR OCCASIONAL FAILURES. They understand that mistakes are a normal, even healthy part ... more »
Monday, August 15
Successful Parenting: The Parenting Quiz
by
ParentSurvival911
on Mon 15 Aug 2005 04:06 PM PDT
This is a great article by Elizabeth Pantley who developed a parenting quiz for you to take. It will point the way to becoming more successful as a parent. Enjoy the read!
I've developed a fun quiz that will help you locate your strengths and weaknesses in the current way you parent. It will help you see yourself more clearly.
Find a quiet corner and take this quiz. Be honest and thoughtful. The answers may surprise or even embarrass you, but reviewing them can help you analyze and improve your parenting style, and get you on the road to creating a successful "parenting plan."
Are each of these statements Usually True or Usually False?
- Our house is a gathering place for the neighborhood kids.
- My children have daily chores.
- Throughout the day, I give my child choices, instead of always giving orders.
- My children ... more »
Sunday, August 14
Successful Parenting: Changing Your Child’s Negative Attitude
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sun 14 Aug 2005 07:34 PM PDT
I don’t know how many parents have shared their feelings of frustration over their children’s disrespectful attitudes. I know Parents want their children to show respect. What is it that causes this behavior? What keeps parents from feeling successful in dealing with their children’s behaviors?
Parents do not talk respectfully to their children. They raise their voices, yell, scream and even call them names. When parents treat their children this way, they’re letting their kids know its all right to interact with others disrespectfully. Parents are the most powerful role models to their kids. Kids watch what their parents do and then do the same thing. They begin to think its ok to treat their parents the same way their parents treat them. Can you see how this type of thinking can build and build, creating problems between parents and their children?... more »
Saturday, August 13
Successful Parenting Tips: Dealing with Angry Kids
by
ParentSurvival911
on Sat 13 Aug 2005 05:31 PM PDT
Do you remember one of my earlier blogs, I talked about the difference between being in your thinking part or your lizard part of the brain? When your child becomes upset and angry, he or she is in the lizard part of the brain—there’s no thinking going on; just reacting. That’s why its important for parents to remain calm when dealing with angry kids.
Successful parents will not engage in a conversation with an angry child. They wait until the child is calmer, back in the thinking part of the brain. If your child is yelling at you or talking loudly, you might do something like:
“I can see you’re really upset about this. I want to listen to you so I can understand better why you’re angry right now. When your voice is as calm as mine, I will listen to ... more »
Friday, August 12
Successful Parenting Tip: Who's Running the Show?
by
ParentSurvival911
on Fri 12 Aug 2005 10:45 PM PDT
Another great article full of good parenting tips comes from www. parentsuccess.com. Dr. Roger McIntire has written about improving relationships between parents and children. Check it out. more »
Thursday, August 11
Successful Parenting Tips: Communicating with Children Successfully
by
ParentSurvival911
on Thu 11 Aug 2005 02:26 PM PDT
I found a wonderful article written by a school prinicipal, Patricia O'Leary, at Parentnews.com. She discusses ways for parents to communicate more successfully with their children.
"Communicating effectively with children is dependent upon learning to be a good listener. Although parents hear children talking every day and carry on conversations with them, good communication is not always taking place."
"When your child talks, make an effort to really listen. Stop whatever you are doing, establish eye contact and pay attention to what your child is saying. Quite often what is said between the lines is just as important as the words being spoken."
The rest of the article can be found at:
http://www.parent.net/article/archive/commun.shtml more »
Wednesday, August 10
Successful Parenting Tip: Parental Warmth
by
ParentSurvival911
on Wed 10 Aug 2005 06:42 PM PDT
I want to share a blog entry from Dr. Kerby T. Alvy, an expert on effective parenting. He writes about the importance of parents showing emotional warmth to their children is a key ingrediaent in successful parenting.
This article can be found at:
http://dralvy.blogs.com/parent/2005/07/parental_warmth.html#more
"Parental warmth continues to be shown in research study after research study to be a primary ingredient of effective parenting. That is why I have included Parental Warmth, Acceptance and Respect as the first guideline in my Power of Positive Parenting guidelines book. " more »
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