Would you like your children to listen to you and treat you respectfully, the way the kids treat Jo Frost on the Supernanny Television show?  Well, you can change your parenting style if you’re open to learning new tricks.  Successful parenting doesn’t just happen—it’s something you usually learn.  You too can act like a super nanny—you just need some ideas and reassurance.

That’s where I come in.  I’m using this blog to share information with families I work with and parents who are looking for help in creative problem solving ideas with their children.

So what’s your biggest complaint about your children’s behaviors?  Log in and write your questions and comments to this blog so we can get some communicating back and forth happening.

The reason why kids like playing games is because they get immediate feedback that’s full of whistles and bells—lots of energy and pizzaz!.  When do they get this kind of energy from you?  When you’re mad!  Think about it.  Do you praise you kids for doing things right or do you have the attitude they’re supposed to do it—its no big deal.

If this is true for you, don ‘t be surprised if you find your kids want to spend more time with their friends and less with you.  At least, with their friends, they get lots of positive feedback, regardless of what it’s about.  Successful parenting happens when children hear their parents noticing the positive things they do and commenting on them instead of just the negative ones.

See if you can notice at least 5 positive things your child does everyday and comment on it.  Instead of saying, “Good job,” try something new like, “I noticed how well you________________” or I see you _____________”.  Describe exactly what you saw your child doing.  That way, your child knows you really were observing and not just saying empty words.

Believe it or not, our children are hungry for our positive attention.  They need it to nourish their souls and their self esteem; so they’ll feel better about themselves.  When children feel better about themselves, they’re happier.  Happier children behave better.  Think about it.

Until my next entry, happy successful parenting.