Remember my entry about paradigm shifts? I have another one for you today that could affect how you discipline your children; how you deal with passive aggressive behaviors, and what type of parenting style you use.
The average human body is 70% water. Modern researchers have shown that the condition of the mind directly affects the body. Japanese scientist Masaru Emoto discovered that molecules of water are affected by our thoughts, words and feelings.
Dr Emoto developed a technique using a very powerful microscope in a cold room along with high speed photography to photograph newly formed crystals of frozen water samples. What he found was that when water was exposed to positive expressions like, “Let’s do it!” it created attractive, well-formed crystals. When water was exposed to negative expressions like “Do it!” it barely formed any crystals at all.
Thanks to this research, we have physical proof of the power of words and their affect on water. Since our adult bodies are made up of 70% water, imagine what the power of words has on us?
If your parenting style is positive; where you speak to your children with love and positive thoughts, you send out positive energy which affects them emotionally and physically. Conversely, if your parenting style tends to be negative, where you speak with anger, judgment and name calling, you send out negative energy which also affects the physical and emotional body of your child.
So when disciplining your child, see if you can remember that the energy behind your words is felt by your child on a physical and emotional level. Do you want your parenting messages to make your child feel better about himself or herself? If so, watch your tone of voice. If you’re upset, that would be a good time to take a five minute timeout away from you kids so you have a change to calm down.
You could also read my 4th blog entry where I talk about the different parts of the brain.
Dr. Emoto’s work can be found (with photographs) in his book, The Hidden Messages of Water. His pictures were also shown in the movie, What the Bleep Do They Know? We were shown a bottle of water that had the words, “love and gratitude” written on it. It created beautifully formed crystals under Dr. Emoto’s microscope. Another bottle, with the words, “You fool!” formed no crystals at all.
So you have new opportunities each day to choose how to respond to your children. Whenever I have someone in my life who pushes my buttons, I imagine pouring a bucket of white light at them. It gives me a sense of satisfaction and yet, I’m sending them positive energy. When I do this for a few days, something changes in our relationship without any words being spoken. It’s fun to watch and certainly feels better than walking around with resentment.
Think about it.
Until next entry, I wish you successful parenting